[QUOTE]\nFortunately, some parents just went with what they KNEW worked, the way\ntheir parents had raised them.[/QUOTE]\n\nAnd alas; those parents who KNEW what "worked" also included the\nindividuals whose own parents had beaten the crap out of them on a\nregular basis for no good reason, sexually abused them all during\nchildhood, etcetera. The inclination to say "*I* survived my\nupbringing, so it's good enough for my kids too" is too often used as\nan excuse for passing child abuse on to the next generation.\n\nYou also ignore the fact that parental upbringing isn't the only\nimportant factor in how a kid turns out: social influences, schooling,\nmental abberations, and individual personalities also have a *huge*\ninfluence. (We all know of examples where a kid had a poverty-stricken\nchildhood with drug-addicted parents and poor schooling, yet survived\nto prosper despite that upbringing.)\n\nWe also know of kids who had the best parenting you could ask for, had\nall the advantages, and yet *chose* to go down the wrong path and\nended up doing life without parole.\n\nGoing with what you KNOW works only means it worked with *you*; it\nmeans very little in terms of how well it might work in another case.