In news:90mv83-,
Whiskers spewed forth:
> On 2006-01-04, Use-More <get-> wrote:
>> "Blinky the Shark" <> wrote in message
>>> Toolman Tim wrote:
>>>>> I think he just want to hide his bookmarks.
>>>>
>>>> Yeah. But why? How come so many people post here wanting to hide
>>>> what they are doing? Maybe they are surfing for personal use on
>>>> company time? A no-no. I hope they get fired. Or maybe they don't
>>>> want their spouse to know they are downloading porn? A no-no. I
>>>> hope they get caught and work through the real issues (I won't go
>>>> into what those might be...)
>>>
>>> All of the above. When I get down on that kind of privacy, I have
>>> to remind myself that everyone doesn't live alone, as I choose to
>>> after my divorces, so everyone doesn't enjoy the simplicity and
>>> inherent privacy that provides. As for using the boss's desktop,
>>> everyone in my end of the biz brings their laptops and surfs
>>> wireless. 
>>
>> Always in search of the dark side ... huh guys.
>> I personally wouldn't want to lock down a PC just because I browse
>> mental health forums merely obscure those bookmarks. There are some
>> thing people don't need to know.
>
> My contributions to mental health newsgroups are a matter of public
> record. I'm sorry that you feel the need to hide your interest from
> your household or colleagues; I can understand the feeling, but the
> stigma attached to mental illness is part of the problem, and a part
> that we can ourselves help to remove by refusing to perpetuate or
> succumb to it. That takes courage, I know, but the place to start is
> with those closest to us.
>
> The use of an obvious 'screen name' instead of ones 'real name' is
> sufficient protection against unwanted intrusion into ones privacy
> from strangers, in my experience. Just stick to one name, if you
> want to be taken seriously
)
Well said. And it's not just mental illness: it could be drug or alchohol
problems, gambling addictions, kleptomania, any number of topics that still
carry an inappropriate stigma. For someone wanting to research or
participate (for personal or professional reasons) it is most important that
the people closely associated (especially family) are brought into the
equation.
I have an addiction with an associated mental disorder (it doesn't matter
here what it is, so don't ask <g>). One of the hardest things in my life was
to tell my parents about it. But where am I getting the most support? From
them. And if I had hid the problem (which I could have) then I would be
lacking my best support options.
Then again, if I was *not* wanting help, I'd sure be covering my tracks.
Which is why I feel the way I do about people covering their surfing habits.
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Whenever I think of the past, it brings back so many memories...